How long has it been since you contacted PayPal?,
Sometimes it is difficult for them to get a purchaser to respond to mediation attempts.
Reapply to PayPal if the normal waiting period for a response has elapsed or asked to have this matter raised by somebody with more senior status.
Do not give up, be persistent and demand answers.
Simply take a few pictures of the dress with your mobile phone, then compose an email on your phone and attach the images to the email and send to both the company and PayPal with full details of your complaint and what would be a satisfactory resolution for you.
How on earth can you state that
“however I feel ripped off by both parties now, with a dress I cannot use.”
You have only lost money to the merchant, NOT PayPal.
PayPal is a free service and they can provide free returns on most goods purchased.
I understand your bitterness with PayPal and your opinion of them has clearly plummeted in your mind, you are owed an appropriate response from them.
PayPal may not always achieve a satisfactory outcome in disputes like this, but your chances of getting a good dispute resolution are far better when you have PayPal in your corner fighting on your behalf for your consumer rights.
That is better than trying to deal with intractable merchants without any back up or support.
In my personal experience, PayPal has only failed to get a satisfactory resolution to a complaint on one single occasion.
That was a deeply dismaying situation, but I will never throw out the baby with the bath water.
I know for a fact that PayPal has served me quite well on the vast majority of merchant issues.
Remember PayPal doesn’t cost you a penny, yet they are on your side fighting for you.
It is much better to have PayPal on your side fighting for you than to have no back up at all.
Sometimes we find ourselves in a no win situation, as consumers it is best to try and learn from our life experience and errors to avoid repeating them.